I’ve had a few people suggest I have some kind of interest in appearing unique, and frankly I find this puzzling, said people have cited things like my collection of vinyl LPs or liking Otto Dix and Max Ernst as evidence of this trait.
Here’s the thing I’m not unique, and I’m honestly overwhelmingly glad that I’m not. Being unique honestly doesn’t sound pleasant to me. I’m extremely grateful that my interests are actually a fairly standard set for a gothy/nerdy/vaguely artsy type person. It means that I have people to talk to, and that I’m not the lonely kid I was growing up in a small town with only my parents to talk to. I am SO grateful that my interests and personality are not unique. Having people who like the same stuff I like means getting to share the joy I get from stuff I love.
The idea that liking stuff no one else likes is somehow a desirable state, or suggests some admirable quality seems like bullshit to me. I mean I guess my interests aren’t the number one most popular set, not the Bounty paper towels of sets of interests, they’re more like the Brawny, but you know what? A lot of people buy Brawny paper towels too (Ironically I prefer Bounty for paper towels, I think they’re stronger) and your prefered brand of paper towels doesn’t have anything to do with your value as a person.
I like the shit I like, like glam rock, and Evelyn Waugh and romance novels and things with skulls on them and sparkly shoes and yes vinyl records (I like them because they’re big and heavy and have exciting pictures on them and they’re just pleasant to handle, the sound quality isn’t superior to CDs) and yes, I do really like Otto Dix. I am not the best fan. I know a little bit about art, but I’m not an expert, and I know what I like (Lucian Freud, Orlan, Genesis Breyer P-orridge) but my interests aren’t better than anyone else’s… and frankly I think it’s fucking strange to assign a hierarchy of value to interests or aesthetic tastes.
I like skull things, but skull likers aren’t better than non-skull likers and skulls are really popular.
I don’t get why people are upset when something they like gets popular, more fans of the thing usually means: 1. More of the thing will be made, and 2. New friends, and friends are awesome, I love it when people love stuff.
I love that I’m lucky enough to be one of your standard types of gothy type person, because that means I have a community, people who get excited about the same stuff iI get excited about.
No, I’m not original, no I’m not unique, and thank god for that. There is nothing wrong with liking mainstream stuff, I rock out to Lady Gaga sometimes and get really excited about pumpkin spice stuff too. I love watching Toddlers and Tiaras and really like Martha Stewart magazine.
Why would anyone want to have interests that leave them lonely and without material to satisfy the interest. As a kid I was really into Mae West, and pre-internet in a town of 800 people I was really lonely, I wanted someone to talk to about my idol, and it was next to impossible to find VHS copies of her movies, so yeah, frankly obscure interests are sucky to have. I’m pretty sure I wasn’t the only kid who was obsessed with Mae West, it’s just the other ones weren’t in the area to hang out with.